For My Girls...
The other night when I couldn't sleep, I started to think about things I hope the girls can learn from my health situation.
There are several things, but one of them is that I hope our experience helps them choose well when they marry. While I wish them all the giggles and tingles and romance in the world, there is a lot in marriage that has nothing to do with romance, and far fewer when it comes to cancer.
My husband has amazed me. He has cleaned out the tub when my hair fell out, seen me with no eyelashes, few eyebrows, and baldness, yet still calls me beautiful. He has sat through several surgeries and helped me come out of anasthesia--not a pretty sight. He has put his work to the side to attend doctor's appointments--and he loves his job. Work is not something he seeks to escape but instead fills him...he has sacrified a lot. He has never once looked at the checking account and blamed me. He has tended to the girls, and driven to the store when I craved something specific. He has "stripped drains" and changed bandages...definitely nothing romantic there!
Yet, all he has done and who he has been over the past 8 months IS romantic. He has proven his committment and love on a deeper level than most ever need to. I hope I have the presence of mind to tell the girls about who their father has been for our family. I hope it will raise the bar and give them wisdom when they make choices about their own mates.
Thanks, Honey, for who and what you have been for me and for the girls.
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Today: I still feel like I have a steel wire cinched too tightly around my chest, but I didn't feel like I had to take a pill until after lunch. I only took one, but feel a second is coming my way. Overall, though, I am better. Not too wise...I picked up Annaleigh so she could help start the washer. Dumb. Also, today: Annaleigh is sick. Ellabeth has had a runny nose, ear infection, and general crud, but has passed the torch to her big sister. So, it has been Annaleigh and me today at home. Nice to have her company, but a crummy reason to have it.
There are several things, but one of them is that I hope our experience helps them choose well when they marry. While I wish them all the giggles and tingles and romance in the world, there is a lot in marriage that has nothing to do with romance, and far fewer when it comes to cancer.
My husband has amazed me. He has cleaned out the tub when my hair fell out, seen me with no eyelashes, few eyebrows, and baldness, yet still calls me beautiful. He has sat through several surgeries and helped me come out of anasthesia--not a pretty sight. He has put his work to the side to attend doctor's appointments--and he loves his job. Work is not something he seeks to escape but instead fills him...he has sacrified a lot. He has never once looked at the checking account and blamed me. He has tended to the girls, and driven to the store when I craved something specific. He has "stripped drains" and changed bandages...definitely nothing romantic there!
Yet, all he has done and who he has been over the past 8 months IS romantic. He has proven his committment and love on a deeper level than most ever need to. I hope I have the presence of mind to tell the girls about who their father has been for our family. I hope it will raise the bar and give them wisdom when they make choices about their own mates.
Thanks, Honey, for who and what you have been for me and for the girls.
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Today: I still feel like I have a steel wire cinched too tightly around my chest, but I didn't feel like I had to take a pill until after lunch. I only took one, but feel a second is coming my way. Overall, though, I am better. Not too wise...I picked up Annaleigh so she could help start the washer. Dumb. Also, today: Annaleigh is sick. Ellabeth has had a runny nose, ear infection, and general crud, but has passed the torch to her big sister. So, it has been Annaleigh and me today at home. Nice to have her company, but a crummy reason to have it.
posted by Beverly @ 3:41 PM
1 Comments:
At 5:33 AM,
Dawn Stan said…
Hi, Beverly, I hope you are feeling better today. You and I are both lucky to be blessed with such wonderful partners. My husband has taken on similar things to your hubby all without complaint and at the same time made me feel loved, looked after and well and truly loved. Like you, I hope my two girls can be blessed with a husband like mine. this will make me eternally grateful.It doesn't get much better than this.
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